Author: Paul Hellwig

    The concept of us having an inner child or doing inner child work is usually viewed with great skepticism by most people I engage about it. I understand this as I used to feel the same way about it when I began my healing journey from the devastation of my dysfunctional childhood. It is not easy for us to suspend disbelief. The problem lies in...

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      It was a sad day when I realized that the walls I had protect me had become my prison cell. That what I needed to heal was on the outside and I had cut myself off from it all. Looking through the bars of my cell and seeing the key to open the door and not know how to get it. The Eagles line in...

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    I think there are many reasons why people don't see there upbringing as dysfunctional. First and foremost is that the only example they have is their own childhood. They have nothing to compare theirs to. They may have glimpses of the family life of their friends and neighbors but not the whole picture. Also dysfunctional family life by its very own nature does not allow...

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    A lot of the time when people in  are sharing about what they are going through in terms of dealing with wounds from childhood other people will share behind them making statements that don not help and can actually do harm. The statements  about how we need to stop blaming our parents, our parents did the best the could and they couldn't give us what...

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God's grace can mean many things. I like to think of it as a gift we are given by the benevolent power that works in our life. Some might call it a blessing. In terms of recovery I sometimes feel grace is doing me a favor. Grace is giving me what I need at the time I need it.   I have had many challenges in my...

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Why is it that we feel choosing not to forgive empowers us in some way ? Lets think about this logically for a moment. We have decided, usually with self-righteous indignation that we will not forgive someone who isn't seeking of could care less about our forgiveness. It brings about the saying that “ Holding on to a Resentment is Like Taking Poison and Waiting...

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